WHAT TO LOOK FOR IN A WOMAN?
So we asked these random gentlemen who are all married & are fathers as well, what advice would they give to their adult son when he asks “What Should I Look For in A Woman?. Here are the answers they shared with us.
7 THINGS YOU SHOULD LOOK FOR IN A WOMAN:
1. MOTHERLY CHARACTERISTICS
“Find a girl who has a character like your mother. A real Catholic: prayerful, simple, truthful, and loving. Ah, also a good cook and palabiro”. – Mannix Fortz, married 25 years
“I would always point at my mom, my wife’s mom and my own wife as models my son should look for in a woman.” – R.L., married 17 years
“I’d point to my wife and tell him find someone similar to your mom’s character and disposition.” –R.B., married 24 years
2. WELL-FORMED CHRISTIAN FAITH
“The girl would be better off Catholic, not any Catholic, but a well-formed one, with parents who are also well-formed Catholics. You have this, and everything else will follow. Everything. Not that I discriminate against non-Catholics, no. It’s just that a lot of potential problems usually associated with a mixed marriage will be avoided.” – Abraham V. Llera, married 33 years
“Truly God fearing woman … emphasis on truly. She should live a sacramental life and live by the Word of God. She is in the world BUT NOT of this world.” – S.M.
“Yung may personal relationship with the Lord. Yung naniniwala sa courtship pattern. At may ambition makatapos ng pagaaral at magpakasal at magbuo ng pamilya.” – P.N., married 30 years
3. UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
“Yung kaya niyang mahalin, at yung tatanggap ng pagmamahal niya.” – Voltaire dela Santa, married 14 years
“Read 1 Corinthians 13. Re-read the passage but this time substitute her name for God and tell me what you think — if she tries to be with you in those ways. Then, substitute your name for God and see if you’re inspired to live those qualities with her. If you think you’re both headed in that direction towards each other, then maybe it’s worth dating a little more seriously.” – G.D.
4. PURPOSE IN LIFE
“If you find a woman that you want to court, be a friend first. Get to know her and all her qualities good and bad. Weigh them and ask yourself if you can live with these annoying qualities everyday. If you can’t live with them, don’t pursue for a relationship because it’s a sure recipe for a failed relationship. Go for the woman that has the same purpose in life as you. If you both love the Lord and love serving Him, the better. If you want to have a family, then find a woman who wants to build a family as well.” – Dominic Barrios, married 4 years
5. COMPLEMENTARY PERSONALITY
“Someone who is sincere, no facade. A complementary personality to yours. A situational leader. Many husbands pass away before their wives do, so someone who can take charge if needed. Someone who is respectful to both her parents and yours. Someone not interested in keeping up with the Joneses. And a Catholic (goes without saying).” – Alfredo Patag, married 28 years
6. PATH TO HOLINESS
“Look for a Catholic young lady who’s well mannered, smart (book smart as well as in a practical sense), funny (as in, makes you laugh with her, not at her), goes to Mass of her own accord, not because her parents make her go (bonus points if she goes to Eucharistic Adoration), and is kind and compassionate especially towards the poor and marginalized in society. In other words, someone who will help make you HOLY. And you’d better be up to the task of helping her to GROW in holiness, yourself.” – Victor Panlilio, married 20 years
As much as we thought this was supposed to be an obvious given, we couldn’t help but include this last advise.
7. A NATURAL WOMAN
“Look for a natural and born woman.” – J.D.
So men, what are your thoughts about this list? Do you have an advice to add in things to look for in a woman? Post your answers below at the comments section .